We all know what it feels like to be overwhelmed and at the point of burnout, but it doesn’t have to be that way.
These days we live very busy lives. Some of us try to be all things to all people which I’ve learned throughout the years from my own experiences lead to resentment and burnout. Leaving us depleted with nothing to give either ourselves or anyone else.
At times I’ve mistakenly seen Self Care as being “Selfish” so not practised the necessary habits for many years. However, as I’ve learned more about myself and my needs I see that it is crucial to living a healthy, happy life. Treating myself as kindly as I would treat others.
Over time I’ve developed some habits that help me maintain a level of sanity. There are so many ways to cultivate self care and there is no right or wrong ways, just what is right for you. Let me know in the comments some of your Self Care Habits. I believe the more we help and support one another the healthier we can be.
One author who I can recommend on this subject is Cheryl Richardson. A renowned bestselling Hay House author who has written several books on Self care .
Yeah right, you say (eyeroll). Easier said than done when you have littlies that keep you up at night or health issues that maybe affecting your quality of sleep. As someone who has had many years of sleep Apnea I know first hand how this affects my happiness as well as my interactions with others. There’s loads of scientific evidence to show how important the right amount of sleep is. I guess bottom line is get an early night regularly, says she staying up till the wee hours writing blog posts…lol. Try and stay off your mobile phone before sleeping, keep the room cooler than you would think and just like your Mum told you, don’t eat less than 3 hours before bedtime. These things all make a huge difference to my quality of sleep when I practice them.
Have you ever had that feeling that you shouldn’t do something, but done it anyway? You know that little voice inside of you that says “this is going to end in tears”. Too often I didn’t follow that voice and sure enough. It ended in tears. In a busy world we are so used to the outside noises and distractions that it’s easy to miss the signs and signals that often our body and intuition are giving us. Intuition is like a muscle. The more we use it, the stronger it gets. Learning to trust those “gut feelings” or “hunches” was a game changer for me. I went from someone who couldn’t make decisions to now being confident that I’m being led by a higher force. As Obi-wan Kenobi says “May the Force be with you”.
It took so many years of resistance to meditation, believing that I had to sit in a pyramid and OM. I couldn’t see the point in this. I’m a big believer in continually learning and growing, so on this journey I found teachers that helped me to deal with stress and encouraged me to take time out, even if it was only for 15-20mins and just sit quietly and focus on your breathing and how the body moves with the breath and any sensations that are happening in the body. As well as guided meditations. This has been a huge benefit for me and since then have found many different forms of meditation like guided meditations. There are a ton on Youtube from short 5mins to longer ones. Maybe you have another way you like to meditate. Perhaps it’s just simply getting out in the sunshine and really feeling the warmth of the sun on your face, or sitting watching the ocean or walking in nature. Whatever gets you back in touch with your body and clears the head.
Hobbies are an important part of life. They enrich our lives and bring us joy. Just as with meditation, my crafts and sewing provide a level of calm for me. A way to take time to enjoy something that is just for me. It helped get me through my depression after a failed marriage. For others it might be the physical challenge and feeling of accomplishment.
Have you heard of the term “emotional vampire”? Well learning to identify those who are draining your energy is a habit well worth creating. You know which people I’m talking about. The ones who walk into a room and immediately you feel yourself wanting to leave. Or those friends who constantly complain about everything in their life. Choose wisely the ones who are worthy of the investment of your time and energy. We all have a limited amount of time and energy. Spend it wisely.
This is one that I think a lot of us have trouble doing. We’re just programmed to be people pleasers and to not want to disappoint someone or even just feel guilty, so instead we say yes, and a lot of times that can lead to resentment. – Ask yourself why you’re afraid to say no. Learning to create positive boundaries. Have a look at this short video on How to say No.
I find this is probably one of the practices that I struggle with the most. Projecting too far into the future or going over past mistakes. Practising mindfulness is tool that often helps to stop these behaviours. But what is mindfulness?
Let me know what Self Care Habits you’ve created in your life. Comment below.
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